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Mary Lynn Jardine

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I can remember growing up and thinking why we had so many rules; "you can't do this, you can't do that". It probably wasn't until I had my own children that I realized just how important boundaries and consequences are to little and big people. Young people need to know what we as parents, teachers, and community expect of them, and what sorts of activities are "in bounds", or "out of bounds". These clear, concise expectations help young people to grow up healthy and productive.

and expectations is the third category of developmental assets. An asset for a child is when their parents set clear rules and consequences for behavior and when they know where their children are and what they are doing. Another asset is when we as parents and community model positive behavior. Parents are a child's most important role model. Positive peer influence is also important for our children. If our children's best friends model good behaviour, they are good influence.

There are many ways we can begin to intentionally build this asset for our children:

• Have a family calendar that notes where everyone will be etc.

• Get involved in the parent-teacher meetings

• Talk to your children about neighbourhood boundaries

• Be involved in your child's life on a daily basis. Take advantage of "teachable moments" — times and events that invite discussion.

Next week I will discuss the fourth category of assets; constructive use of time. Mark your calendars for the fall mass registration Saturday, September 13. Call the Wellness and Recreation office for further information 623-2300.

Mary Lynn Jardine is Recreation Coordinator — Youth for the City of Miramichi.